Safety Tips - Behavior to Watch
Adult Behavior that may signal Sexual Interest in Children
Remember: Children are most often molested by someone they know, or whom the parents know. Do you know an adult or child who:
- Refuses to let a child set any of his or her own limits?
- Insists on hugging, touching, kissing, tickling, wrestling with or holding a child even when the child does not want affection?
- Is overly interested in the sexuality of a particular child or teen (e.g. talks repeatedly about the child's developing body or interferes with normal teen dating)?
- Manages to get time alone or insists on time alone with a child without interruptions?
- Spends most of his / her spare time with children and has little interest in spending time with someone their own age?
- Regularly offers to babysit many different children for free or takes children on overnight outings alone?
- Buys children expensive gifts or gives them money for no apparent reason?
- Frequently walks in on children / teens in the bathroom?
- Allows children or teens to consistently get away with inappropriate behaviors?
- Talks again and again about the sexual activities of children or teens?
- Talks about sexual fantasies with children and is not clear about what's okay with children?
- Encourages silence and secrets in a child?
- Asks adult partners to dress or act like a child or teen during sexual activity?
- Often has a "special" child friend, maybe a different one from year to year?
- Spends most spare time on activities involving children or teens, not adults?
- Makes fun of a child's body parts, calls a child sexual names?
From: "Because There Is a Way to Prevent Child Sexual Abuse: Facts About Abuse and Those Who Might Commit It", Joan Tabachnick, Editor, Stop It Now!, Haydenville, MA, 1998.